How Churches “explain” singleness.

Posted: February 20, 2019 in Uncategorized

As soon as you’re satisfied with God alone, He’ll bring someone special in your life. (As though God’s blessings are ever earned by our contentment.)

You’re too picky. (As though God is frustrated by our fickle whims and needs broader parameters in which to work.)

As a single, you can commit yourself wholeheartedly to the Lord’s work. (As though God requires emotional martyrs to do his work, of which marriage must be no part.)

Before you can marry someone wonderful, the Lord has to make you someone wonderful. (As though God grants marriage as a second blessing to the satisfactorily sanctified.)

Beneath these statements is the premise that single life is a state of deprivation for people who are not yet fully formed for marriage.

Paige Benton Brown responds along the lines of Paul’s 1 Corithians passage:

“I am not single because I am too spiritually unstable to possibly deserve a husband, nor because I am too spiritually mature to possibly need one. I am single because God is so abundantly good to me, because this is his best for me.”

(Taken from Timothy Keller’s The Meaning of Marriage, p. 224-225)

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